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Mentoring: How to be a Great Mentee

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 The Mentoring Relationship: Being a Mentee

Dear Lucy Leader,

I’ve found a great LWML mentor who is going to give me lots of great ideas, but what do I need to do as her mentee?  

Margaret from Manhattan

Dear Margaret from Manhattan,

First, thank God that He has given you an LWML mentor. Be sure to express your gratitude to your mentor as well. 

Together set boundaries with your mentor. Communicate expectations clearly for both of you. Keep confidential information confidential. Remember that God will be the one causing your growth. Allow God to work through both of you.

You will not want to become a carbon copy of your mentor. Be the person God has created you to be. Do not idolize her or let others idolize her. Always remember to look to Jesus.

Mentoring is not all work and no play. Schedule times for fun together. This is a good way to really get to know each other.

There may be a time when the mentoring relationship grows into an appreciation for each other’s gifts and talents and the mentee is ready to become a mentor for another Lutheran woman in mission. The skills learned from your mentor can be shared with others. Mentoring is a way in which we share our relationship with the Lord to help someone else grow in a personal relationship with Him. It may be time for you to mentor someone using the skills you learned from your mentor.

There is a wealth of information about mentoring at www.lwml.org/posts/leadership/how-to-mentor-and-encourage-others.

May God bless you and your mentor as you work together!

Lucy Leader


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Lois Teinert, Chairman
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2019-2021 LWML Leadership Development Committee Members
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Lois Teinert, Chairman
Marie Chow, Vice President of Organizational Resources, Advisory


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Making Meaningful Meetings

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 Making Meaningful Meetings

Dear Lucy Leader,

I have recently been elected president of our local group. I am busy and I know the women in our congregation are also busy. I want to be sure the meetings are a good use of our women’s time. How can we make the meetings meaningful to the women of our congregation?

Busy Beverly

Dear Busy Beverly,

Being considerate of the women in your congregation’s time is very commendable. It is important to assess meeting times and frequency according to the needs of your group. 

There should be clear goals for the meeting, and the goals should dictate how often the group meets. Here are some standard goals for LWML group meetings: 

  • Assist LCMS women to affirm their faith in the Triune God;
  • Enable LCMS women to use their gifts in ministry to others;
  • Provide opportunities to bond in fellowship;
  • Provide opportunities to praise and serve God;
  • Enable the women to establish goals, set timelines, and accomplish the ministries they have chosen to undertake; and
  • Provide each woman with a voice in making decisions for the organization.

You can find tips to help with meeting efficiency at www.lwml.org/posts/leadership-tips/meetings-with-meaning. There are more tips to put together a successful meeting at www.lwml.org/posts/leadership-tips/meetings-with-meaning.

May you and your group find joy in the ministry and mission of the LWML!

Lucy Leader


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God's Blessings,
Lois Teinert, Chairman
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2019-2021 LWML Leadership Development Committee Members
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Lois Teinert, Chairman
Marie Chow, Vice President of Organizational Resources, Advisory


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Christmas Event Planning

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 Christmas Event Planning

Dear Lucy Leader,

Christmas time is coming soon. I want to do something special with my group, but I just don’t think I have the time or energy to do it. Can you help me?

Not So Merry Mary

Dear Not So Merry Mary,

Christmas time can be incredibly stressful these days. First, it is important for you to carve out time to spend in the Word to let the Spirit refresh you. But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint (Isaiah 40:31). God promises to give us rest. Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28).

Fear not! For behold, I have tidings of great joy! Start your planning early. LWML has a multitude of resources to help you plan special Christmas events for your group. Multi-session and short Bible studies to help your group focus can be found at www.lwml.org/winter. You can find interactive litanies, responsive readings, and short programs at www.lwml.org/program-helps-litanies. A birthday party for Jesus and other fun Christmas mission service ideas and directions to make Christmas paper ornaments can be found on lwml.org. You can find even more ideas by going to lwml.org and typing “Christmas” in the search bar. LWML has so many good ideas for you that the hardest part will be choosing what you want to do! 

Let me leave you with this Bible verse:

For to us a child is born,
    to us a son is given;
and the government shall be upon his shoulder,
    and his name shall be called
Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God,
    Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6).

Merry Christmas, Mary!

Lucy Leader


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Lois Teinert, Chairman
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2019-2021 LWML Leadership Development Committee Members
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Marie Chow, Vice President of Organizational Resources, Advisory


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Getting More Young Women Involved

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 Getting More Young Women Involved

Dear Lucy Leader,

How do I get more young people involved?  Everyone is so busy these days working and raising children.  All that's left is us two older women!

Sincerely,
Retired Rita and Tired Teresa

Dear Retired Rita and Tired Teresa,

You ask a very good question — one that women all around the country are asking these days. You are right! The younger women are busy working and raising children. But they also are looking for ways to serve the Lord and to make a difference in the world around them. 

Because your question is such a good one, LWML has put a lot of time and effort into creating resources that will help you involve young women. You can find those resources at www.lwml.org/young-women-involvement. Remember that your needs and interests are really not that much different than the young women’s needs and interests. What makes a group welcoming for you, also makes it welcoming for young women. Above all, remember our love for God is what binds us together as Lutheran Women in Mission.

May God help you listen to young women and try to meet their needs. May He help you to be flexible and give you the courage to try new ideas. Most importantly, may He use you to show His love to the young women in your midst.

Lucy Leader


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Lois Teinert, Chairman
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2019-2021 LWML Leadership Development Committee Members
Marie McNary
Sherrie Smith
Lois Teinert, Chairman
Marie Chow, Vice President of Organizational Resources, Advisory


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Reminders and Encouragement

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 Reminders and Encouragment

Dear Lucy Leader,

How often should I remind someone of a deadline without making it seem like I am pestering her?

Pesky Patty

Dear Pesky Patty,

You ask a good question. The task needs to be accomplished in a timely manner, but you do not want to seem bothersome to your volunteer team member. 

Being a Christian leader is a relational experience. However, these experiences occur in the laboratory of life. Deadlines are a part of this real life. It is important to be clear about those deadlines at the very beginning of the task. Make sure your timeline is realistic. Be specific in what the task requires. Your Christian relationship with your volunteer team member is crucial. If you have established a friendly atmosphere, it will be easy to check in with her and see how she is doing. Ask if she needs help to meet that deadline. Let her know you are willing to help her succeed in what she has been asked to do. 

LWML has resources to support you in your walk as a leader of volunteers. “Volunteers in Christ’s Ministry”has many helpful suggestions. 

Cheer your team on. Encourage and motivate your volunteer team member. Most importantly, pray for her and with her. 

Let me leave you with a final thought from God’s Word: Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing (1 Thessalonians 5:11).

Blessings,
Lucy Leader


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2019-2021 LWML Leadership Development Committee Members
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Lois Teinert, Chairman
Marie Chow, Vice President of Organizational Resources, Advisory


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How Do I Delegate and Mentor at the Same Time?

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 Delegating While Mentoring

Dear Lucy Leader,

I think I need to learn to delegate. How do I delegate to a volunteer and mentor her at the same time? 

Challenged Mentor

Dear Challenged Mentor,

First, let me thank you for wanting to be a mentor. Mentoring does not mean, “What can I teach you?” Instead, it means, “How can I help you?” Being a mentor does not mean you need to be perfect or have all the answers. Remember, there is forgiveness even in mentoring. 

It is good that you recognize you cannot do everything by yourself. Delegating will help your group accomplish more and will give someone else the opportunity to serve. She will learn new skills, find a sense of purpose, connect with others in her community, and find enjoyment in her ability and calling, empowered by the Holy Spirit as she serves. 

When you delegate, ask your mentee to serve in a position she enjoys. Help her develop her gifts when she is placed in that position. Ask for her input in planning and decision-making. Observe how much work she can do. Some may work better with short-term assignments rather than with long-term goals. Know her capabilities. Let her be who God made her to be.

LWML has resources to support you in your walk as a mentor. “Volunteers in Christ’s Ministry” has many helpful suggestions. You can also find a wealth of information at www.lwml.org/posts/leadership/how-to-mentor-and-encourage-others.

By the Holy Spirit’s power, we become mentors as we witness His love to others — the message of the Gospel is shared through the life of the believer. As children of God, we are truly blessed to serve, mentoring others by living our lives in Christ, led by the Spirit.

Lucy Leader


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2019-2021 LWML Leadership Development Committee Members
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Lois Teinert, Chairman
Marie Chow, Vice President of Organizational Resources, Advisory


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Attending LWML Events

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 Attending LWML Events

Dear Lucy Leader,

I’d like to attend LWML events. Where do I start?

Need A. Group Norma

Dear Need A. Group Norma,

Attending LWML events is certain to be a blessing for you. Begin by asking your pastor if there is an LWML group in your church. If there is, your pastor can give you contact information for the leader of that group. If there is no group in your church, you might prayerfully consider starting your own group or becoming an individual member. You can find information about starting a group or becoming an individual member at www.lwml.org/get-involved.

There are events at the zone and district levels. You can learn about these events on your district’s website. You can volunteer in your zone, district, or even on the national level. Learn more about that at www.lwml.org/get-involved.

You can attend an LWML district convention in the even-numbered years. Women from all over the United States — and the world — attend a national LWML convention in the odd-numbered years. You can find out about the next one at www.lwml.org/convention.

Attending LWML events will help you draw closer to the Lord and encourage and equip you to use your God-given talents in sharing God’s love. You’ll be provided with opportunities for service within your congregation and for outreach to the community and the world. May God bless your LWML walk!

Lucy Leader


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God's Blessings,
Lois Teinert, Chairman
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2019-2021 LWML Leadership Development Committee Members
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Sherrie Smith
Lois Teinert, Chairman
Marie Chow, Vice President of Organizational Resources, Advisory


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